Friday, May 16, 2014

Behavioral Cycle

A behavioral cycle we can probably all relate to:

1. Meet person, have misgivings about their intentions/behavior.

2. Be assured by others that said misgivings are without cause.

3. Decide to disregard misgivings and be less cautious.

4. Ingratiation happens, attachments are made.

5. Person ends up behaving exactly like misgivings indicated. Pain results.

6. Promise to have a better filter and more caution next time.

7. Time passes and Step 6 is forgotten.

8. Go to Step 1.

When your first instinct is to be wary of someone and not to let them in too close, listen. That's probably the right way to go. Have the strength to keep some people at arm's length, because there are people you should not try to bring any closer than that.

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