Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Traits to Avoid

Two warning signs to avoid in someone as a partner (these apply to men and women equally):

1) They hit on wait staff. It's creepy. People in service jobs are not there for you to make a pass at. This indicates both bad upbringing and a casual disregard for boundaries. It can also indicate the person sees others as objects for their use.

2) Openly discussing the "hotness" of someone else. This typically happens in groups. When guys do it, they come off as frat boy jerks. When girls do it...well, same thing. Even worse is when it's done in front of someone you know is interested in you, since it's pretty much telling them, "Look how inferior you are compared to this person." It's related to some of the manipulation techniques that start by creating a negative seed in the other person. At best, it indicates the person has no manners. At worst, it can be a red flag for an emotional abuser.

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